A passionate kiss is at least as hot as a spontaneous quickie, if not hotter – at least that's what most women would say if you asked them. But why is kissing so important for women and why do people kiss at all? The most important questions about the topic, surprising facts and kissing tips you probably haven't heard yet.
How important is kissing?
Many couples remember their first kiss better than their first time having sex. This could be because kissing literally makes you "high". Because it releases a heady mix of the hormones serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline. This explains why sometimes you just can't keep your lips apart. By the way, kisses are usually even more important to women than to men. Because all senses are addressed, it has a very intimate effect.
Can a bad kiss prevent a relationship?
Women unconsciously find out through a kiss whether a partner suits them – in terms of genetic factors, according to the results of a British study of the University of Oxford.
According to this, women are mostly attracted to a foreign genetic code for immunity. It is an indication of whether the kisser is a potential candidate for a relationship with healthy children. In a survey conducted by the University at Albany in New York, 66% of women said they ended a budding relationship after a bad first kiss.
How important is making out in the relationship?
Kissing is not only crucial in dating. Even in long relationships, lip service is the best way to express affection and strengthen the bond. 90 % of all women consider intimate kisses to be very important, even in the course of the partnership.
A study by the British Heart Foundation shows, however, that 18% of all married couples often do not kiss for a whole week. This is fatal, because studies have also shown that The frequency with which couples kiss is directly related to their satisfaction in the partnership. By the way, this does not apply to the frequency of sex. So kissing seems to be much more important for the relationship than sexual intercourse. It is quasi sex in miniature with happiness guarantee.
6 surprising facts about making out
We now know how important kissing is in the search for a partner and for the happiness of a relationship. But that is not all that kissing can do.
Kissing reduces stress
After a stressful day at work, don't fire up the boob tube, but kiss passionately first. Because kissing is healthy. Researchers of the University of Oxford proved the stress-reducing effect of smooching. For the Study Asked over 50 couples to kiss more than usual for 6 weeks. The result of the blood tests: Participants were significantly less stressed than before the test. Kissing reduces the stress hormone cortisol in the blood and promotes optimism.
Kisses in public are not only proof of love
Kissing in public is not just a sign that your partner wants to prove how serious she is. A Investigation, published in Journal of Sex Research found that the motivation behind a kiss in public is often different.
50% of women surveyed said you want to make your ex-boyfriend or other women jealous. But men are no better: we want to prove our checker qualities in front of other guys by kissing in public.
Why you tilt your head to the right when kissing
A Study, that in the professional magazine Scientific Reports proved: 74% of all people tilt their head to the right side when kissing. Reason: the hand we write with determines which way we tilt our head. But even if you're left-handed, chances are you'll lean to the right as you mirror the other person's head tilt.
This is why you close your eyes when kissing
Because it is more romantic? Wrong! The answer is simple: the brain is unable to couple sensory input during a kiss with visual information.
That's according to a Study, study published in the journal Journal of Experimental Psychology appeared. If you keep your eyes open during a kiss, you can't focus on taste, smell and feel.
The most common reasons for failed kisses
Okay, if a bad kiss can prevent an affair or relationship, it's important to look at what makes a lousy kiss. The most common criteria for the lousy mouth number:
Your teeth can prevent the kiss
Your teeth can prevent the kiss from happening in the first place. According to a study, The journal Evolutionary Psychology Was published, most women care more about healthy-looking teeth than the appearance of their lips, face and body. So the first kiss stands and falls with well-groomed teeth.
Your aftershave can spoil the kiss
If you plan to kiss your beloved, you should apply the aftershave sparingly beforehand. Because the scent competes with your body odor and therefore confuses women subconsciously. The secret tip: Drink a drink with aniseed or chew licorice before the date. The scent is supposed to stimulate the blood flow in the vagina. Whether it really works? You have to try it yourself!
The last meal leaves a bad impression
Clearly: the kebab, the fish roll or the garlic noodles are not the best choice before an upcoming kiss. Unless you have eaten the meal together.
Your tongue can make the woman run away
The drill, the propeller, the washcloth – any of these tongue performances don't go over well with women. It is advisable to approach cautiously at first. But that doesn't mean you should only use the tip of your tongue. How best to proceed, read below.
How to tell that a woman wants to be kissed?
There are few things more uncomfortable than a woman who turns away when you want to kiss her. You can tell if the lady is ready for lip contact by these signs.
She's looking for closeness: "When there's not an inch between you, it's clear," says sex researcher Dr. Ingelore Ebberfeld. This is still too risky for you? Then look deep into the eyes of the lady of your heart. If she does not smile, look down or turn her head away now, the time is not ripe yet.
She's looking for support: She seems nervous and plays with her clothes? She strokes her own arm, thighs or runs her hand through her hair? These are so-called autoerotic touches and signs that she is not averse to a physical approach. If in addition her lips redden, enlarge and open slightly, this is a sure sign.
She's looking for eye contact: Intense and prolonged eye contact is definitely a sign of interest. "If her pupils enlarge when she does this, it reveals that she is excited," Ebberfeld says. Even better: The lady looks conspicuously often at your lips. She certainly doesn't want to look at them only then.
Kissing training: How do I approach the first kiss?
If you have recognized all signs, you may try your luck. Start with deep eye contact. Approach her and enjoy the expectant tingling before your lips touch. If she longs for your lips, she may make the first move now. Otherwise: Do not immediately go into full swing. First, carefully touch your lips to those of your beloved. Never give her the feeling that you want to determine the situation. By the way: if she is avoiding you, even though all the signals were pointing to "kiss me", it doesn't mean that you don't have a chance – maybe it's just not the right time yet.
Where do women want to be kissed?
Apart from the lips, almost all women find it erotic when kissed on the neck and nape of the neck. Sensual kisses on the chest, décolleté, inner thighs, arms and other erogenous zones open a direct path to your most intimate hotspots. Kisses on the forehead, eyes and cheeks cause less erotic feelings for her.
But you create trust and prove your affection. A kiss on the hand, which used to be a sign of submission, is now rather antiquated and funny. Kissing her fingertips or wrist, on the other hand, gives many women a comforting shiver.
Learn to kiss better: the best tips for a hammer kiss
You can already kiss? The question is: how well? Since, as we all know, there is always room for improvement, here are the best tips for professional smooching. The beloved will hang on your lips!
The right place: Forget the quiet park bench or romantic restaurant! The best kisses happen in loud bars or at well-attended concerts. The noise and energy promote the adrenaline rush that pushes sexual arousal. At a concert you can also approach her in the best possible way. Because it's loud, you almost have to touch her ear with your lips to talk to her – this is known to be an erogenous zone. And is not far to her lips.
What lips are allowed to do: You have dry lips? Then it helps if you put Vaseline on them and wipe them down before you meet them. It makes the lips soft and does not leave an unpleasant film. When kissing, do not pucker your lips too much. Because it reminds them of kisses from grandma. In addition, do not press your lips together. Just stay relaxed!
The right tongue technique: Use your tongue carefully. With it you can namely make the most mistakes. At first, just brush your lips over hers until she parts them and offers you her tongue. Always adjust the speed of the kiss to the lady. By the way, be careful with too much saliva – women are less fond of wet kisses than men.
What the hands do: Just let it hang? Please do not! This does not mean that you should immediately fondle her buttocks and hips. It is ideal if you touch the woman's head with your hands.
This is what most ladies find romantic. Run your fingertips along her neck to her hairline and into her hair. This increases blood flow to the scalp and causes a slight tingling sensation. By touching her during the kiss, her body releases the bonding hormone oxytocin. This increases affection, trust and can also improve orgasm.
After the kiss: With the kissing pro, the lip service is not over when the lips part from each other. Hold her head in your hands for another second and look into her eyes. Breathe out or shake your head slightly to show her how much the kiss has taken away your senses. After that you should let go, slightly distance and take a break. Because it acts like a cliffhanger. Means she will soon crave the next sensual kiss.
Conclusion: Do not underestimate the kiss!
For many women, making out is more important than sex and an indicator of whether you're a good match as a couple. Even in a long relationship you should not give up passionate kissing (with tongue). It strengthens the bond with her and is the best medicine for a happy relationship.
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