When men wonder if they're actually really good in bed, they usually think about their performance with their bestie. Whether her penis is hard enough and her repertoire of positions can be seen. If the duration is right, the tempo and in general. Admittedly, this is not insignificant, but it is by far not the only thing that matters.
A good handjob between the thighs of a woman belongs to the royal class
For example, how is your dexterity? Are you able to seduce her with your hands alone (and only with your hands; tongue and lips do not count)?!) to make really, really hot? It is a fact that an excellent sleeper does not necessarily have to be a good finger acrobat.
There is hardly anything that makes women as hot as a man who knows how to use his fingers properly. In the meantime, everyone should have realized that "sticking it in and stirring it around" is not the non plus ultra and that rubbing alone does not make a lady happy. A good handjob between a woman's thighs – just like cunnilingus – actually belongs to the royal class.
Not the technique alone makes you hot
What we found out during our research: If you manage to drive a woman out of her mind with your fingers alone, you'll be fighting your way onto the golden throne of her kinkiest fantasies. After all, compared to classic intercourse, fingering has the decisive advantage that it can be done virtually anywhere. Letting your hand disappear into your panties in a dark movie theater is not only uncomplicated, but above all, it's also a pretty messy affair. Second insight: it's not primarily a particularly sophisticated technique that matters; sometimes it's the location or the circumstances that make fingered sex so special.
The 7 golden rules of fingering
Rule no. 1: Entry only for clean men
Sorry to mention it explicitly again, but well-groomed fingers and fingernails are simply a basic requirement to make the lady feel good about herself. No woman likes to be touched by grubby, unkempt hands or long, sharp-edged fingernails. Especially not in her most sacred place.
Rule no. 2: Do not necessarily step over the threshold
Fingering doesn't necessarily mean inserting your finger(s) inside her. Some women don't like to be penetrated by hand right away, or at all, and can let themselves go much better if you just devote yourself to their labia, clitoris, or the entrance to their vagina. You can tell pretty quickly if a woman feels like taking your finger inside her. For example, by opening her thighs wider or directing your hand independently to her vaginal entrance.
Still not sure? Use your ring finger and light pressure to describe small circles around her entrance. He's wet and the touch makes her moan (louder)? Then venture forward slowly. At best, do not use 3 fingers at the same time and as far as possible. But hopefully that goes without saying.
Rule no. 3: Always stay supple
Nothing is as unpleasant as a dust-dry finger between a woman's labia. No part of the body has as many nerve endings as the clitoris. To express it in numbers: With up to 8000 nerves, there are twice as many as in the penis. So you are dealing with a really sensitive spot here. So before you carefully part your labia, make sure they are moist enough. If your lover is already wet, it is usually enough to spread a little of her vaginal fluid on the clitoris with your finger. Of course, you can also moisten the finger with your saliva. Just please don't do it like in some porn movies: never spit directly between her legs! This is real and honestly lowest drawer.
Rule no. 4: For more equality
Similar to classic intercourse, many women do not reach orgasm by stimulating their vagina alone. Therefore, do not neglect the rest when you disappear inside her with your fingers. A common variation is to massage her clit with your thumb while your index and middle fingers are inside her vagina.
Try the following variant: You take a seat behind her, your partner sits with spread thighs between your legs, so that you can comfortably reach her vagina. Curve your index and middle fingers slightly and penetrate her from above. The heel of your hand should be at the level of her clitoris. With this, you now apply pressure to the labia and clitoris over a large area and in slow circular motions, while using your fingers to tease her G-spot.
Rule no. 5: You are not her uncle doctor!
For some inexplicable reason, some men mutate into amateur gynecologists during finger play and squat between the woman's thighs with a highly concentrated gaze. This not only looks strange, but is also highly unpleasant for the woman.
Teenagers who have a real vagina in front of them for the first time in their lives and can't get out of their amazement are forgiven at this point. For all others: Please do not stare! Much better: Do not neglect the body contact even when fingering. For example, by holding the lady in your arms, stroking her thighs with your other hand or simply pressing your body against her. By the way: A "You feel so damn good!" actually comes at this point with women as well as it sounds.
Rule no. 6: The art of slowness
There's no question about it: when your sweetheart really gets going at some point, you may not be able to reach her with your hand as quickly as she would like at that moment. Does not mean in reverse, however, that much also helps a lot. Especially in the beginning, when it comes to heating it up in the first place, slow, gentle touches are advantageous. After all, the beauty should get a desire for more, hungry for your touches and not be immediately overrun.
As a rule, women signal all by themselves whether you should pick up the pace or indulge them more violently or with more pressure. Either by murmuring it in your ear, or guiding your hand. Allow this intervention quietly and please do not be offended. Rather, see it as a wonderful opportunity to learn from the professional.
Rule no. 7: The orgasm hunt is on! Not.
You've always wanted to make a woman squirt, as you've seen it in porn at some point? And that G-spot thing won't let you go either? If such things burn you so much under the nails, then be so nice and speak it with her before you plow wildly on it. Women (as well as men) are not machines that work this way and that way, depending on which buttons you push. Otherwise your lovingly meant finger acrobatics end in dogged poking, from which ultimately no one has what. She partout does not come to orgasm? So what? Then just next time. Only please do not be offended or desperate. Better: Talk to each other or (even better) watch her masturbate and learn. In this way you will quickly find out what she really likes.
If at some point you get so good at driving her crazy with your hands that she whispers in your ear, "You do it better than I could ever do it myself," you may give yourself a mental pat on the back and silently thank us for it.
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